For the elderly, not only can even supposedly minor procedures have complications, but the cancers grow so slowly that they’re unlikely to cause problems in the patients’ remaining years.
Someone recently said to me, "I do not want to die with any regrets." My life-long statement to self has been, "I want to be proud of what I do and say." This was certainly true of the six months we spent caregiving. Did I live up to that totally? No. Did I get close? Yes. I learned that, because there is life after caregiving, I needed to conduct myself so I would not end up with regrets.By far the most difficult situations we encountered caregiving for my mother-in-law centered around her safety. Momma never got her fair share of common sense and good judgment in life. Health care professionals, particularly in rehab after she broke her hip for the third time, consistently identified her lack of judgment as a major problem in her rehabilitation. So we came to her last days still trying to manage her safety in the face of her poor judgment.